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Not So Motherly
My Personal Life Experiences with a Stepmother Not so Motherly
Not So Motherly: My Life with a Stepmother: Not So Motherly is Adesuwa Lillian’s unflinching memoir of surviving ten years of abuse at the hands of her stepmother in Nigeria. At age seven, she and her brothers were taken from their mother’s family and brought to live with a woman who treated them as servants rather than children. Forced to hawk goods on the streets, denied adequate food, beaten with rocks and a mortar pestle, and subjected to daily verbal cruelty, Adesuwa transformed her pain into purpose. She promised to prove her stepmother wrong by building a successful life.
Now a Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, married for 25 years with four children, she writes from a place of healing, not hatred. She offers candid advice to stepmothers, mothers considering divorce, and stepchildren navigating similar experiences. This memoir is both a searing indictment of mistreatment and a powerful testament to resilience.
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This memoir chronicles the author’s ten-year journey from age seven to seventeen, living under an abusive stepmother in Nigeria. Readers will find raw accounts of physical beatings, emotional torment, food deprivation, forced child labor, and the isolation of being separated from her biological mother. The book also explores first menstruation without preparation, a near-fatal accident, and eventual reunification with her mother. Beyond the trauma, it offers practical advice for stepmothers, divorced parents, and stepchildren, culminating in a powerful story of healing, faith, and triumph.
1. Childhood Trauma
Raw accounts of beatings, food deprivation, forced labor, and verbal abuse endured for ten years.
2. Loss Of Mother
The painful separation from her biological mother at age seven and the struggle to reunite.
3. First Experiences
Terrifying first menstruation without preparation and a near-fatal bus accident at seventeen.
4. Healing And Advice
Her journey to becoming a nurse, building a loving family, and providing practical guidance for stepmothers.